The word surrender can have negative connotations that reek of defeat and passivity. Yet, I’m learning that surrender isn’t always a bad thing. In fact, the ability to surrender may actually be essential to living a victorious life. As evidence in support of this irony, I offer the following for consideration . . .
When you surrender, you move from the problem to the solution
In the scenario of being unhappy in a relationship, many of us do not want to accept that we are not happy. We want to be happy, so we do all kinds of things to try and change the reality of how we feel. We think “what if I just do this?” or “what if they could just do that?”
We spend all our time thinking up what if scenarios instead of accepting what is. Yet, it is only by surrendering to the truth of what is, that we are free to move forward to the solution — whatever that may be.
If it is a health problem we are facing, surrender can also work for in our favor. It’s not that we surrender our hope of healing. It’s that instead of ignoring our symptoms and wishing they would just go away, we surrender to what our body is trying to tell us. When we finally stop resisting the truth we can begin to listen and we can begin to pursue a remedy.
Surrendering even to a simple thing, such as being stuck in rush hour traffic, brings victory. Even when we aren’t moving, it moves us. It moves us from the problem of feeling frustrated, to the solution of using the extra time for self-reflection, prayer or rocking out to the radio.
The key to living in the moment is surrender
Living in the moment has always been a challenge for me. Even though I can’t change the past or control the future, I spent much of my life constantly obsessing about both. As a result, I was constantly miserable. It wasn’t until I learned to let go of the past, and to stop feeling overly responsible for the future, that I was able to enjoy living in the present.
What I had to learn to surrender was my belief that I was in control of my life. When I finally released my bruised and bloody knuckles from trying so desperately to secure what was never within my grasp, I was able to see the one thing I could control — my presence.
Surrender is indeed essential to living a victorious life, but we must be careful what we surrender ourselves to. Surrendering to the temptation of despair will only bring more misery. It is only by surrendering to the truth that we can hope to be released from all that binds us and to be empowered to become everything we were created to be.
“Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be.” – Sonia Ricotti