Generosity is typically viewed as a virtue that focuses on giving liberally to others. Yet, I’m beginning to see there is another aspect of generosity. Although it is often overlooked, we must not forget to also be generous toward ourselves.
This notion may sound selfish, but it isn’t. After all, everyone who flies commercially knows that if the cabin loses pressure you’re supposed to strap on your own oxygen mask before assisting others. I’ve flown enough to know this rule, but I guess I just never applied it to my everyday life.
Many aspects of my life have suffered as a result of my reluctance to be generous toward myself. Waking up to this sad reality has been a slow process. It wasn’t until I discovered I was depriving my body of the sustenance it needed to thrive that the picture became clear.
I wasn’t starving myself on purpose. In fact, I didn’t think I was starving myself at all. But when a nutritionist recommended I eat a lot more protein and take several supplements to address my bodies’ deficiencies, my resistance became very apparent.
Standing in the vitamin aisle of a natural foods store balking at the prices and trying to find the cheapest solution, it hit me. I am totally stingy toward myself. I want to be healthy, but I keep expecting my body to be satisfied with the absolute minimum of investments.
It would be easy to blame it on the fact that I have always been a frugal minimalist. Yet, when I dig down to the roots of that personality trait, I see something disturbing. The deeper reality is that I struggle with generosity – toward myself and others – because I am afraid my resources will run out.
When I recently took a good long look at this fear, I realized somewhere along the path of life I formed a very limiting belief surrounding finances. The belief hidden in my subconscious was this: There isn’t enough and what there is isn’t for me. Yikes!
That is why I keep reading The Trance of Scarcity – over and over and over again. That is why I keep asking God to help me trust that he is my supply. That is why I am consciously choosing to hop on my inner tube and go with the flow of abundance that is both all around me and for me.
It is a very different way of being. In fact, I’ve been brainwashed by the trance of scarcity for so long it feels rather foreign. It’s like leaving the struggle of my arid existence to enter into a bountiful land flowing with milk and honey.
I’m sure I’ll still want to be a good steward of all this plenty, but I’m hoping I’ll also be a much better steward of myself. So . . . please pass the milk and honey, and take plenty for yourself when it comes by. Let’s be generous toward each other, but let’s also make sure to be generous toward ourselves!
If you are interested in reading The Trance of Scarcity, look for the Amazon link on my Resources page.